Read a very interesting thought today ....
"Most people don’t think they create their emotions. They think they just have them. Like snowflakes or raindrops, they fall out of the sky. People often say that they were just overcome by emotion. In fact, emotions are chosen. The mind decides to feel a certain way. Emotions are an Act of Will." --- Neale Donald Walsch
I was one among the many who once believed that emotions just happen. I could argue for ever (and also manage to convince) that emotions cannot be created, they just happen. But with time it changed. Before I go further, let us also see what does emotions mean.
As per wikipedia, "Emotion is a complex psychophysiological experience of an individual's state of mind as interacting with biochemical (internal) and environmental (external) influences.... Emotion is associated with mood, temperament, personality, disposition, and motivation."
Very interesting explaination. Isn't it? A mood or emotion is governed by once personality. The definition of emotion itself says that we are in control of our emotion (or should be) and not be in control of emotions ...
I was a pranksters all my life (and maybe still am). There was a time when I could fake fever to avoid going to school! How would I manage that? It was simple. I would make myself believe that I am unwell and kept repeating it over and over. By next morning I would actually have a fever! Fever or not feeling well is also an emotion. So, we can train our mind to believe or behave or react a certain way. Yet, in those years I would say that emotions can't be created. What a contradiction.. :)
With time and experience, I started questioning this belief of mine. I realised I felt a certain way because I wanted to. I would get angry because I wanted to put across my point strongly and thought anger was the only way to do it. The day I started training my mind that I CAN put my views across WITHOUT raising my voice, my anger started reducing.
I think the same is with love. I fall in love very easily and then it's very difficult for me to come out of it. The reason is that I am in love with the concept of falling in love. So, I tend to be affectionate very easily. It becomes difficult for me to pull myself out once I have 'fallen in love' because of my mindset of loving love. Now that I am aware of this, I am actually conscious of my actions and emotions.
With time I started practicing watching myself and it has helped me in many ways. I am a much calmer, happier person and more in touch with myself than I was earlier.
Maybe, this is what is called, 'living in present'.
Oh yes! I am still in love with the concept of falling in love ..... :)
